Sometimes it's difficult to explain to a client what the boudoir experience is really like. If you've met me, you know that I never try to "sell" you on what I do. If I think you aren't ready for boudoir, I'll tell you. If I think the style you're looking for doesn't match mine, I'll try to suggest a photographer who'd better suit you. I totally get that for the majority of women who decide to do this, it's a big deal. I honestly want you to come out of it with a fresh perspective around how beautiful you are. The worst-case scenario for me would be to have someone come in, feel gorgeous and then hate her images when she saw them. Just so you know, that has never happened. And don't worry, when I sit down to do the consultation with each and every client, she's sure that she'll be the one whose photos don't turn out. She'll be that first client who I can't find the beauty in. And she's always wrong.
Buuuuttttt, me telling you all this is kinda like when you were little and your parents tried to convince you that certain vegetables tasted good. In the back of your mind, you may be thinking "riiiiighhhtt...". But what if one of your friends was trying to convey the same message? Horse of a different color, no?
Well, my beautiful client, Jennifer Denise, had her session about a month ago. After she received her images, she took me out for some amazing Indian food (shout out to Chai Pani!) and asked me about writing her own blog about her experience. I, of course, was all for it! So. Here is how her experience went in her own words.
"If I kept waiting for the perfect moment, I was going to be waiting forever.
In my case, most of my waiting was centered on losing some weight.
I’ve been a professional makeup artist for almost fifteen years, and have worked on countless photoshoots; plenty of them were boudoir shoots. I really love my job, helping women look and feel their best as they shed their layers and inhibitions to celebrate their bodies. Yet, somehow I got to a place that made me think I didn’t deserved to celebrate mine.
I thought surely I would get there, though, one day. So I put it off, despite offers from photographer friends to help me do my own boudoir session. And I got older, and my weight crept higher. Now I look back at old photos, and think, “why didn’t I do it ten years ago, when I was younger (and weighed less)?”
So I stopped putting it off.
I decided to hire Meagan because I have worked behind the scenes with her on past boudoir shoots and have seen how hard she works to capture the perfect photo, through creating that perfect moment with the client. Regular women are not models, not used to having pictures taken while in such vulnerable positions and being so revealing. Meagan’s patience and understanding could always coax amazing images from even the most diffident client.
I don’t know what exactly made me finally call Meagan, but once I made the appointment, I had a week to prepare. That meant new lingerie, a mani/pedi, and scheduling a hair appointment to cover my grays.
It was odd shopping for new lingerie, though it was now a necessity, as nothing I already owned fit anymore. As my weight had climbed upwards, I stopped shopping for anything beyond practical in the underwear department.
When I arrived at her adorable studio, I was immediately welcomed with a giant hug, and reassurances, and I realized that I had a knot in my gut. It was about to begin.
Meagan has a fantastic schpiel she gives to all her boudoir clients, and I must say, it was so funny being at the receiving end of it. I was so nervous! But a quick explanation of posing techniques, along with her philosophy of what makes all women beautiful, and I was ready to go.
The afternoon in her studio was such an amazing boost to my ego, one I didn’t realize I needed. I left feeling fabulous because not only is Meagan so efficacious at posing women, but also at reassuring us that we are, in fact, the most gorgeous woman in the world, and we definitely have something to celebrate.
And in ten years, when I look back at the pictures, I know I will be glad I stopped waiting for the “perfect moment”."
Makeup | Jamecia Bowers | www.beautybybowers.com
Hair | Brawner Raymond