I LOVE SURPRISES. Like love LOVE LOVE. I love being both the supriser and the suprisee. There's just something about not knowing about something awesome that someone else has thoughtfully selected/planned/purchased for you. A big chunk of my clients do a boudoir session in order to surprise their significant other with an incredible gift. Don't get me wrong-boudoir photos are always a crowd pleaser. But it can be tough and even a little stressful to put something so elaborate together. There have been a few clients who had the surprise get spoiled/found out early-but every single one says that they're significant other finding out actually made the entire process more fun.
Let me explain. If you're doing this as a surprise, usually you buy some new lingerie that you have to purchase on a card he doesn't have access to you can shell out some cash for. You also use that method of payment to book the session with me. I legit had one client take $20 cash back every time she went to Kroger for a year. She brought a huge wad of cash to her reveal. Nothing wrong with that-it may have felt a little like a drug deal, but that just made it funny. However, I know she planned and worked for a year to save enough in such a way that he wouldn't know about it.
Then you hide any new lingerie until your shoot. For some girls this is easy and for us open-concept loft owners, there's a bit more of a struggle. From the trunk of your car to the drawer beneath your over-there are some crazy places my clients have chosen. The vegetable drawer of the fridge included (because "he never eats his veggies anyway!") Then you have to figure out some reason for you to be gone for 4-5 hours the day of your session. Followed by a reason you leave with no makeup on and come back with a face full of the stuff and big, voluminous hair. Uhhhh...Sephora was having a makeover day? My bestie wanted to play around with some new makeup and hair stuff? Some guys will buy any lie and others (like my hubby) would be skeptical and just ask more questions...
Most of my clients take everything off again before they leave and just throw their hair up-which kinda sucks because you looking freaking H-O-T! You should be on your way out to paint the town red! Plus, you have such a great time at the actual shoot all you're going to want to do is tell him all about it...and you can't if you're trying to keep the surprise a secret. Finally, you have to figure out a way to come back for the reveal and purchase the pics so he doesn't know what you've done and still doesn't suspect anything. That's a lot of mental gymnastics. You can totally do it-lots of my clients have-but I think sometimes my clients underestimate how much fun it can be to have your significant other along for the ride.
First of all, you can still surprise him with the fact that you've chosen to do this for him! Maybe you get one new lingerie outfit and wrap it for him. When he opens it, you let him know that you decided to book a boudoir session for him and this is the first outfit you've selected to bring along. But he gets to help decide on the rest. Talk to him about what he likes and what he'd want to see in the images. Make a pinterest inspiration board together or go through the some lingerie websites.
On the day of your session, have him drive you and pick you up when we're finished. Make sure y'all have a babysitter for the kids/furkids and reservations somewhere special because you are going to be looking SO fine! Shoot, maybe even book a hotel room and stay in the city that night. That way, over a candlelit dinner you can gush about the details of the session. Finally, let him come along with you to the reveal to see the images and experience seeing them for the first time together. You'll get to see what he really wants and y'all can decide together what to purchase. Just be sure to discuss budget beforehand because he's gonna want it ALLLL!