Love Is In the Air
Getting married is an amazing time in your life. It starts with the best part...falling in love. Is there any better feeling? Colors are more vibrant. You glow from the inside out. There is a legitimate feeling of floating through life. Laughter feels poised to leave your lips. You find someone you're attracted to. Someone you can both belly laugh and dream deeply with. Someone who finds the entire picture of you desirable. Someone who makes you feel so safe being 100% yourself. You share dates, long conversations, kisses, experiences, disagreements and delights.
Your lives naturally begin to turn toward one another. You leave a toothbrush at their place. They leave one of their hoodies at your place. Maybe you plan a trip away together. Maybe you get a pet. Eventually, you have all the information you need to know that you DEFINITELY prefer your life with them in it. So much so that you want to make that promise to one another in front of all of your family and friends.
After you decide to get married, overnight it seems your world tips into wedding planning mode. It's a gorgeous whirlwind of decisions. But it's kinda like glitter: beautiful to experience and a bitch to manage. Venues, vendors, fancy outfits, honeymoon plans. It's beautiful and stressful. There are rich moments with people you love and a billion thank you notes to write. There are creative details you are excited to add and it feels impossible to find the time to plan it all. There is the gorgeous moment of seeing so many people you love in one room and the strain of the bank account balance to make it happen. There's getting to savor time with your family and “getting to savor" time with your family. (In case it was unclear, the air-quotes stand in for the drama that can bring. If that’s still not clear, bless you.)
It's almost like Stress and Joy decide to be best friends for the season, rarely choosing to appear separately at any wedding-centered function. Unfortunately, this coupling can have a pretty negative impact on the romance of the relationship. Conversations get boiled down to linen choices or cake toppers. Romance and connection are traded for list-making and task-doing.
And THAT is why a boudoir session is such a wonderful way to celebrate one another.
It's a pathway back to romance and connection. It's a way to say, "I love you so much, I did something a little intimidating, so you can see how excited I am to spend my life with you!" It's a way to say, "Look at these beautiful images. This is how you make me feel when I'm with you!" Most of my clients opt to purchase an album to gift on the wedding day, which is brilliant!!!! That's certainly a groom's gift that leaves an impression. But I've also had brides who share their pictures randomly during the wedding planning process. One bride even would save the photos to send her future husband only during wedding-related meetings, lol! Meaning at the cake tasting, she slipped off to the restroom to text her groom-to-be one of her sexy images. Apparently, his attendance was 100% for all wedding vendor related meetings.
SO enjoyyyyyy the planning process as much as you can. But make space for the connection. That, after all, is all that really matters.
